No Luck With Love

Q: Dear Vivi, 

I have never had much luck with relationships. No matter what I do, they always seem to go downhill. I can’t figure out what I’m doing wrong, do you have any advice?

– No Luck With Love

A: The two things that I believe are the most important in any relationship are communication and trust. These two elements go hand in hand within a relationship – you have to trust your partner to have good judgment, and to be a reliable, honest person, just as they trust you to do the same. In order to accomplish that, communication is key.

I strive to be as honest and a forthright as possible from the get go, and I have found that it relieves a lot of the pressure and stress that can accompany any relationship. Now, I’m not saying you need to sit down and a have a heart to heart about everything on the first date, but talk with your partner, and let them know what you are looking for in a relationship. It’s better to find out at the beginning of you have vastly differing desires for a relationship. When you are honest and open with your partner, it can encourage them to be just as honest with you. Honest communication with each other will help you to build the trust that every relationship needs to succeed. If more couples did this, there would be less fights and more lovin’ all around.

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